I was feeling frustrated yesterday evening. I got home from work, talking under my breath about my husband who wants to start a new business but isn't doing the work to move forward. My son who says he wants to join the military but isn't studying for the ASVAB like the recruiter said to do. I was feeling so much responsiblity to push them, to make them move, make them take a step forward. After all, I'm their support system, right? Isn't that my job as a wife and a mother?
Suddenly I found myself in the middle of the kitchen, supper simmering on the stove behind me, and I yelled out - I give up all responsiblity for others' lives! Do you hear me? I abdicate all responsibility. It's up to them to do the work, it's up to them to live their lives and make their choices. There's nothing I can help them with at this point. They have to take the next step themselves and I abdicate responsiblity!
I felt so much better after this outburst. I have no idea where it came from or what led me to do it. I just knew it felt right and I finished making supper and spent the rest of my evening working on MY work instead of trying to do their work.
Who are you trying to "make" move in a certain direction? Let it go, abdicate responsibility, let them work it out, and go about your day.
Friday, April 5, 2013
Thursday, March 14, 2013
Abundance Surrounds Us
I've been reading a book called The Wealth Diet by Kathy Zant, and going through the exercises. I've also been reading a book about simple living, and going through those exercises. You wouldn't think these two books would have anything in common, but the exercises are similar in each book. I'm thinking about simplicity and abundance in so many different ways, and it hit me the other day how abundance surrounds us. When we think about abundance, we typically think money. We need more money, we want more money. But abundance is in everything - our home, our family, our joys, our passions. We can be abundant in talent and gifts, happiness and joy.
I had read a section in The Wealth Diet where Kathy mentioned people walking over money found in the street. How many times have you done that? How many times have you passed over a quarter or a dime or even a penny? I found $10 once at a park in the parking lot. We found money on the sidewalk at the mall. On this particular day, I needed a dime so I could have enough money for the vending machine. I started digging through my purse and found three dimes. The next day my husband had mentioned we needed a new mop head. That night, he told me he'd gotten three at work. They were being tossed out during a renovation of the store where he works. And it hit me - this is abundance.
Abundance is God providing all we need and more. I needed a dime - he provided three. We needed a mop head - he provided three. My husband also received a wall locker that he's using to store books and games in in our family room. This is abundance, and if we keep our eyes open we can see it surrounding us.
How have you experienced abundance in your life, no matter how small it may seem?
Thursday, December 13, 2012
Q & A From Beer With Jesus by Thomas Rhett
I heard this song on the way home from work tonight and thought it was a nice thought, being able to sit down with Jesus, have a beer (or unsweet tea) chat for a while. Then I realized - we CAN do that, anytime we want, and then I realized the questions asked in the song were already answered in His Word.
I'll post the video later, but here are the lyrics, as sung by Thomas Rhett and written by Thomas Rhett, Lance Miller and Rick Huckaby.
If I could have a beer with Jesus
Heaven knows I’d sip it nice and slow
I’d try to pick a place that ain’t too crowded
Or gladly go wherever he wants to go
You can bet I’d order up a couple tall ones
Tell the waitress put ‘em on my tab
I’d be sure to let him do the talkin’
Careful when I got the chance to ask
How’d you turn the other cheek
To save a sorry soul like me
Do you hear the prayers I send
What happens when life ends
And when you think you’re comin’ back again
I’d tell everyone, but no one would believe it
If I could have a beer with Jesus
If I could have a beer with Jesus
I’d put my whole paycheck in that jukebox
Fill it up with nothing but the good stuff
Sit somewhere we couldn’t see a clock
Ask him how’d you turn the other cheek
To save a sorry soul like me
Have you been there from the start
How’d you change a sinner’s heart
And is heaven really just beyond the stars
I’d tell everyone, but no one would believe it
If I could have a beer with Jesus
He can probably only stay, for just a couple rounds
But I hope and pray he’s stayin’ till we shut the whole place down
Ask him how’d you turn the other cheek
To save a sorry soul like me
What’s on the other side?
Is mom and daddy alright?
And if it ain’t no trouble tell them I said hi
I’d tell everyone but no one would believe it
If I could have a beer with Jesus
I’d tell everyone but no one would believe it
If I could have a beer with Jesus
Here are the answers to the questions:
How’d you turn the other cheek; To save a sorry soul like me
John 3:16 - 17 "For God loved the world so much that he gave his one and only Son, so that everyone who believes in him will not perish but have eternal life. 17 God sent his Son into the world not to judge the world, but to save the world through him."
Do you hear the prayers I send
Gen 25:21 ..."The LORD answered Isaac’s prayer"
Gen 30:17 ..."And God answered Leah’s prayers"
Gen 35:3 ..."I will build an altar to the God who answered my prayers..."
1 Kings 9:3 ..."The LORD said to him, “I have heard your prayer and your petition..."
What happens when life ends
John 5:24 “I tell you the truth, those who listen to my message and believe in God who sent me have eternal life."
2 Cor 5:8 "...to be absent from the body, and to be present with the Lord."
And when you think you’re comin’ back again
Matthew 24:36 “However, no one knows the day or hour when these things will happen, not even the angels in heaven or the Son himself.[a] Only the Father knows.
I’d tell everyone, but no one would believe it
Matthew 13:57 And they were deeply offended and refused to believe in him. Then Jesus told them, “A prophet is honored everywhere except in his own hometown and among his own family.”
Matthew 13:13 That is why I use these parables, For they look, but they don’t really see. They hear, but they don’t really listen or understand.
Have you been there from the start
Gen 1:1 In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth.
John 1:1 In the beginning the Word already existed. The Word was with God, and the Word was God.
How’d you change a sinner’s heart
2 Cor 5:17 This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun!
Romans 12:2 Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.
And is heaven really just beyond the stars
2 Cor 12:4 I was caught up[a] to the third heaven and heard things so astounding that they cannot be expressed in words, things no human is allowed to tell.
What’s on the other side?
Deut 26:15 ...Now look down from your holy dwelling place in heaven
John 14:2 There is more than enough room in my Father’s home.[a] If this were not so, would I have told you that I am going to prepare a place for you?
Is mama and daddy alright?
Rev 14:13 And I heard a voice from heaven saying, “Write this down: Blessed are those who die in the Lord from now on. Yes, says the Spirit, they are blessed indeed, for they will rest from their hard work; for their good deeds follow them!”
What would you talk to Jesus about? The answers are already here, waiting to be discovered and understood.
I'll post the video later, but here are the lyrics, as sung by Thomas Rhett and written by Thomas Rhett, Lance Miller and Rick Huckaby.
If I could have a beer with Jesus
Heaven knows I’d sip it nice and slow
I’d try to pick a place that ain’t too crowded
Or gladly go wherever he wants to go
You can bet I’d order up a couple tall ones
Tell the waitress put ‘em on my tab
I’d be sure to let him do the talkin’
Careful when I got the chance to ask
How’d you turn the other cheek
To save a sorry soul like me
Do you hear the prayers I send
What happens when life ends
And when you think you’re comin’ back again
I’d tell everyone, but no one would believe it
If I could have a beer with Jesus
If I could have a beer with Jesus
I’d put my whole paycheck in that jukebox
Fill it up with nothing but the good stuff
Sit somewhere we couldn’t see a clock
Ask him how’d you turn the other cheek
To save a sorry soul like me
Have you been there from the start
How’d you change a sinner’s heart
And is heaven really just beyond the stars
I’d tell everyone, but no one would believe it
If I could have a beer with Jesus
He can probably only stay, for just a couple rounds
But I hope and pray he’s stayin’ till we shut the whole place down
Ask him how’d you turn the other cheek
To save a sorry soul like me
What’s on the other side?
Is mom and daddy alright?
And if it ain’t no trouble tell them I said hi
I’d tell everyone but no one would believe it
If I could have a beer with Jesus
I’d tell everyone but no one would believe it
If I could have a beer with Jesus
Here are the answers to the questions:
How’d you turn the other cheek; To save a sorry soul like me
John 3:16 - 17 "For God loved the world so much that he gave his one and only Son, so that everyone who believes in him will not perish but have eternal life. 17 God sent his Son into the world not to judge the world, but to save the world through him."
Do you hear the prayers I send
Gen 25:21 ..."The LORD answered Isaac’s prayer"
Gen 30:17 ..."And God answered Leah’s prayers"
Gen 35:3 ..."I will build an altar to the God who answered my prayers..."
1 Kings 9:3 ..."The LORD said to him, “I have heard your prayer and your petition..."
What happens when life ends
John 5:24 “I tell you the truth, those who listen to my message and believe in God who sent me have eternal life."
2 Cor 5:8 "...to be absent from the body, and to be present with the Lord."
And when you think you’re comin’ back again
Matthew 24:36 “However, no one knows the day or hour when these things will happen, not even the angels in heaven or the Son himself.[a] Only the Father knows.
I’d tell everyone, but no one would believe it
Matthew 13:57 And they were deeply offended and refused to believe in him. Then Jesus told them, “A prophet is honored everywhere except in his own hometown and among his own family.”
Matthew 13:13 That is why I use these parables, For they look, but they don’t really see. They hear, but they don’t really listen or understand.
Have you been there from the start
Gen 1:1 In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth.
John 1:1 In the beginning the Word already existed. The Word was with God, and the Word was God.
How’d you change a sinner’s heart
2 Cor 5:17 This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun!
Romans 12:2 Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.
And is heaven really just beyond the stars
2 Cor 12:4 I was caught up[a] to the third heaven and heard things so astounding that they cannot be expressed in words, things no human is allowed to tell.
What’s on the other side?
Deut 26:15 ...Now look down from your holy dwelling place in heaven
John 14:2 There is more than enough room in my Father’s home.[a] If this were not so, would I have told you that I am going to prepare a place for you?
Is mama and daddy alright?
Rev 14:13 And I heard a voice from heaven saying, “Write this down: Blessed are those who die in the Lord from now on. Yes, says the Spirit, they are blessed indeed, for they will rest from their hard work; for their good deeds follow them!”
What would you talk to Jesus about? The answers are already here, waiting to be discovered and understood.
Saturday, September 8, 2012
Allowing Myself to be Me, Loving Myself Unconditionally
I'm going to be honest. I haven't dealt with my diagnosis well. I've cried about this, prayed with my husband over this. I cried about the loss of hope I felt in the belief that if I was really, really good with diet / exercise and reached my goal weight that MAYBE I would have great looking legs. I'd be able to wear boots and skirts and cute clothes and not be hot in the summer because I'm in jeans when everyone else is in shorts and capris.
But today I'm angry. I'm fed up. And I'm free of the hate. My legs are my legs. I'm going to do my part to keep losing weight, but the hate for my legs, the envy I've had of other women who don't have this issue, the embarrassment I've felt over my legs, that's done.
I refuse to believe that there isn't a cure for this. I wanted answers -- I got answers. But I don't have to believe the research that's available. There's actually very little research out there, since U.S. doctors have very little data on lipedema. So why should I believe there's no cure, or that I'm going to end up with little mobility as I age?
I'm not going to believe it, because my body knows how to cure itself. My body was made perfectly, and it knows what to do.
And I don't give a crap what anyone says or thinks about my legs anymore. Now, I'm not an idiot. I'm not going to buy short shorts and flaunt everything. But from this point forward I am going to be comfortable. I'm going to buy some wide legged capris, maybe even splurge on some linen slacks, buy some cute sandals, give myself a pedicure, and I'm going to be comfortable, dang it!
I'm going to love my legs. I'm going to pamper them, use my good smelling lotion from Victoria's Secret, keep them shaved and smooth (yes, even in winter, ladies!) give myself a pedicure and paint my nails, use my good body wash. I'm going to love these legs and ask them to forgive me for the 20 years of hate I've felt for them.
At this moment in time, I have my health. I have mobility. I am able to exercise, to walk, to run (a little, at least) and go and do and enjoy life. So I'm going to appreciate these legs for as long as they can hold me up.
If I truly believe what I've said in the past about taking 100 percent responsibility for my life -- good and bad -- then that means that I have to take 100 percent responsibility for this body. My responsibility for this body is to care for it, love it unconditionally, even though it's only a temporary shell. I CHOSE this body, so I am choosing to care for this body from this moment forward.
The Bible says my body is a temple, and I am going to treat it as such.
Because I am beautiful, dang it, and I deserve to be healthy and well and whole -- legs and all.
Saturday, September 1, 2012
You are So Beautiful
My husband and I left the pharmacy after picking up my medication,trying to deal with my diagnosis and what may / may not happen in the future. Just as we were leaving the store, this song began to play:
I couldn't keep it in any longer. By the time we reached his truck, I was in tears.
God is good. God is good all the time.
Saturday, August 25, 2012
What Will I Believe?
I have lipedema.
I have a rare adipose disorder. This is a fat disorder that is genetic, affects women, has no cure, and many doctors aren't aware of it. It's typically misdiagnosed as lymphodema, which is what I believe my endocrinologist did. But I do believe I have lymphodema in addition to lipedema as one typically leads to the other. Other doctors just keep saying, "You're fat" and want you to diet and exercise and don't believe there could be another reason for large legs.
In a way this is a good thing and a bad thing. It's a good thing because I have a name for what is wrong with me. I am not just "fat". There is treatment available.
The bad part is that there is no cure. It's been undiagnosed since I was a teenager. Treatment may not be covered by health insurance. Many doctors are unaware of this disease - and it is a disease. I will never have model skinny legs.
Or will I?
Will I believe a diagnosis with no hope of recovery or will I accept a future where I will eventually need a wheelchair or hovearound to get around?
Will I give up my desire to be able to wear normal clothes, like skirts and boots and shorts and capri pants?
At this moment I don't know.
Saturday, August 18, 2012
Our World is Natural and Spritual
Photo from freedigitalphotos.net
Once a upon a time, there was a man and a woman who lived in a beautiful garden. They had everything they wanted -- food, companionship, purpose.
There were two trees in the garden. One was called the Tree of Life, one was called the Tree of the knowledge of Good and Evil. Their father told them to only eat of the Tree of Life. In that way, they could stay in the garden, they could stay connected to Him.
This couple saw their garden in a unique way. They also saw their Father in a unique way. They walked with Him in their garden. They spoke with him and knew He answered them. They not only saw trees and flowers and grass in the garden. They saw Life.
Not an apple or a pear or an orange. They saw Life on the tree, and they were able eat it and touch it and be part of it.
Adam and Eve saw our world in both a physical and a spiritual way. We know what a tree looks like. We have them in our yards, our parks, our streets. But do we know what Life looks like?
When Moses saw the burning bush he saw what seemed to be fire, but it didn't act like fire. He called it fire because it was the only thing he knew to call it since he had only known the physical world.
What Adam and Eve could see, what Moses saw, was the spiritual part of our world. They saw into the Kingdom of God. Adam and Eve walked in God's kingdom. How shocked they must have been when they ate from the Tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil and the world they'd known disappeared, when they could no longer see the spiritual world they'd come to know?
God's Kingdom is all around us. It's here, now. If all we're doing while here on earth is complaining about our struggles, waiting for the sweet by-and-by, then what is the point? God gave us Life for a reason. We have everything we need within us, right here, right now. As we go through Life we grow and mature and we're able to connect to the power that we forgot we had.
Open your eyes. See your world the way Adam and Eve saw Life on a tree, the way Moses saw fire that didn't burn, the way John the Baptist saw the Holy Spirit as a dove, the way the Apostles saw the Holy Spirit as tongues of fire, the way Jesus saw the sick healed.
You are more than you think you are.
Saturday, August 11, 2012
What Gospel Did Jesus Teach?
Photo from freedigitalphotos.net
I am going to discuss something that is radical, amazing and thought-changing. Most likely you've never heard this before. I know that I hadn't, and it's an amazing way of looking at our world.
If you're a Christian you believe Jesus' death provided atonement for our sin. I'm not arguing the case of sin / no sin. That's for other LOA bloggers and speakers and coaches to discuss when it comes to religion. I am a Christian who uses Law of Attraction and my belief system, if you want to call it that, believes the basic tenets of Christianity. Those tenets include the Gospel of Atonement, so that is not the issue.
What I want you to think about, though, is what was Jesus teaching BEFORE his death? When he preached on the hillsides? When he healed the sick? When he walked through Galilee, gathering disciples and spreading his message?
What was his message?
Jesus came not because of our bad behavior but to show us how to connect with the Kingdom of God, our source of power, who makes us who we are.
I'll share it again.
Jesus came not because of our bad behavior but to show us how to connect with the Kingdom of God, our source of power, who makes us who we are.
Jesus was connected with God the Father during his time on earth, up until his death on the cross. After death, he reconnected with God the Father and the Kingdom, and he returned to his disciples to share even more about this truth with them --
As citizens of the Kingdom of God, we have access to the power of God the Father. When we are connected to God -- through praise and worship, prayer, scripture, being open to hearing his voice -- we can do all things.
Pretty cool, huh?
Saturday, August 4, 2012
Law of Attraction Awareness - Progress
I've had a couple of my books out since February under my pen name but nothing has really happened with them. I've sold a few, but I knew I needed more exposure. So I set an intention and asked. Yes, I believe
intentions can be statements or questions. I asked - What do I need to do next in order to let people know my stories are out? Send me information.
Soon after asking that I got an email from an indie publishing mailing list I'm on, asking for subscribers to ask any question they have regarding writing, indie publishing and marketing. So I asked - with a limited amount of time to write & promote, what would be the best use of my time?
Her answer was reviews. I needed to get some reviews on blogs, on Amazon, on Barnes and Noble.
Okay, but I didn't know how to do that. No one that had bought the books had left a review.
But that day - yes, that day - as I was going through my Twitter feed I noticed all these retweets from fellow authors. They included various blogs where they or friends were being reviewed. So I bookmarked the sites as I could, went to them when I was able, and read over the blog and the review policies.
I have multiple blog sites now in favorites, I've requested reviews from seven of them, been accepted for two so far, accepted two guest post spots in August on one, and joined a blog hop for August / September.
I don't know yet how this will affect my sales or if it even will. But it continues to amaze me what happens when all we do is ask.
There is no coincidence.
intentions can be statements or questions. I asked - What do I need to do next in order to let people know my stories are out? Send me information.
Soon after asking that I got an email from an indie publishing mailing list I'm on, asking for subscribers to ask any question they have regarding writing, indie publishing and marketing. So I asked - with a limited amount of time to write & promote, what would be the best use of my time?
Her answer was reviews. I needed to get some reviews on blogs, on Amazon, on Barnes and Noble.
Okay, but I didn't know how to do that. No one that had bought the books had left a review.
But that day - yes, that day - as I was going through my Twitter feed I noticed all these retweets from fellow authors. They included various blogs where they or friends were being reviewed. So I bookmarked the sites as I could, went to them when I was able, and read over the blog and the review policies.
I have multiple blog sites now in favorites, I've requested reviews from seven of them, been accepted for two so far, accepted two guest post spots in August on one, and joined a blog hop for August / September.
I don't know yet how this will affect my sales or if it even will. But it continues to amaze me what happens when all we do is ask.
There is no coincidence.
Saturday, July 28, 2012
Law of Attraction Awareness - Lost Keys, Money Comes, Refusing to Believe
We'd gone out the other night and took my husband's truck, leaving my car for our son to drive home from class. After we finished our meeting and got home, I realized my keys weren't in my purse. I searched everywhere, then we searched the truck. I thought I may have left them in the restroom at the building where we had our meeting. We had to call the person with the key to come back and open it. No keys. Before we left again, we prayed to find my keys.
My husband suggested checking the school where we left the car. We headed across town to the college and searched the parking lot where I'd left the car. Then we slowly drove out of the parking lot and up to the road. Just down the road he saw them. I don't know how, but he saw them lying near the gutter in the road. I'd apparently left them on the car instead of putting them in my purse. They'd been run over and were banged up, but they are working fine.
When working on our monthly budget we ended up with a shortage. I was feeling anxious, but my husband calmly stated our affirmation - Money comes to us from sources known and unknown. And we prayed over the budget and for needs and wants to be met.
And they have been, in many ways. Extra jobs, bills less than budgeted, overtime. It's all working out.
The next one is something we learned from the movie, What the Bleep. Our reality is based on perception. What we perceive and what someone else perceives is different. So when my husband's work told him a few weeks ago they were cutting his hours to 24 or less, we refused to believe it. He told them that he was hired for 25 hours (he's been working 30) and that's what he wanted. They said they would discuss it and let it drop. Since then, he's been going to work as if nothing has changed. We just refuse to believe the hours are being cut and assuming he'll be working the 30 hours he's been working for two months.
How are your manifestations / affirmations coming true?
My husband suggested checking the school where we left the car. We headed across town to the college and searched the parking lot where I'd left the car. Then we slowly drove out of the parking lot and up to the road. Just down the road he saw them. I don't know how, but he saw them lying near the gutter in the road. I'd apparently left them on the car instead of putting them in my purse. They'd been run over and were banged up, but they are working fine.
When working on our monthly budget we ended up with a shortage. I was feeling anxious, but my husband calmly stated our affirmation - Money comes to us from sources known and unknown. And we prayed over the budget and for needs and wants to be met.
And they have been, in many ways. Extra jobs, bills less than budgeted, overtime. It's all working out.
The next one is something we learned from the movie, What the Bleep. Our reality is based on perception. What we perceive and what someone else perceives is different. So when my husband's work told him a few weeks ago they were cutting his hours to 24 or less, we refused to believe it. He told them that he was hired for 25 hours (he's been working 30) and that's what he wanted. They said they would discuss it and let it drop. Since then, he's been going to work as if nothing has changed. We just refuse to believe the hours are being cut and assuming he'll be working the 30 hours he's been working for two months.
How are your manifestations / affirmations coming true?
Saturday, July 21, 2012
What the Bleep! Do We Know?
I'm watching What the Bleep!... with my husband, rented from Netflix. I've heard a lot about it from various LOA circles so figured I needed to go ahead and see what it was all about.
We still need to finish it. It's two and a half hours long, so that's a lot to get into an evening. Plus, we kept stopping the movie and discussing various aspects of it.
The movie stars Marlee Matlin (Children of a Lesser God, the L Word) as Amanda, a photographer who lives with a hippie type roommate who is very positive and outgoing. Amanda is going through a transformation after a painful breakup with her husband. Her story and the things she is experiencing is broken up with interviews with scientists, psychologists, and others.
The movie will definitely make you think and look at things from a new perspective. I especially love the parallel worlds. What is amazing though is that things that were thought of as science fiction even thirty years ago are being studied as real possibilities right now.
The movie can be hard to understand in places since Amanda's story keeps being broken up, but you can see how she is so close to a breakthrough in her personal life, close to breaking away from limiting beliefs and looking at possibilities in her life.
If you get a chance to watch the movie, go ahead and get it from Netflix (it was available for streaming too) and spend some time watching and discussing. It's refreshing to see that science is beginning to look honestly at things we used to think of as strictly spiritual and finding that they actually have a lot in common.
Have you seen What the Bleep? What did you think?
We still need to finish it. It's two and a half hours long, so that's a lot to get into an evening. Plus, we kept stopping the movie and discussing various aspects of it.
The movie stars Marlee Matlin (Children of a Lesser God, the L Word) as Amanda, a photographer who lives with a hippie type roommate who is very positive and outgoing. Amanda is going through a transformation after a painful breakup with her husband. Her story and the things she is experiencing is broken up with interviews with scientists, psychologists, and others.
The movie will definitely make you think and look at things from a new perspective. I especially love the parallel worlds. What is amazing though is that things that were thought of as science fiction even thirty years ago are being studied as real possibilities right now.
The movie can be hard to understand in places since Amanda's story keeps being broken up, but you can see how she is so close to a breakthrough in her personal life, close to breaking away from limiting beliefs and looking at possibilities in her life.
If you get a chance to watch the movie, go ahead and get it from Netflix (it was available for streaming too) and spend some time watching and discussing. It's refreshing to see that science is beginning to look honestly at things we used to think of as strictly spiritual and finding that they actually have a lot in common.
Have you seen What the Bleep? What did you think?
Saturday, July 14, 2012
My $100,000 Check - A Promise to Myself
I don't know if I've written about my $100,000 check before.
When I first read Think and Grow Rich last year, the main point was to have a tangible, set goal for what you wanted to achieve. My goal is to be a successful writer earning $100,000 a year by my 45th birthday. That will be July 16, 2016.
(Yes, I will be 41 on Monday. Happy Birthday to me :) )
I found an image of a blank check online. You can actually find these now on The Secret's website or buy some from TUT as well. But I just used Google Image Search, found a blank check photo and used Paint to edit it.
I made it out to myself, dated it July 16, 2016, and then signed it "Law of Attraction."
Here's a picture:
I carry this with me in my purse. Every now and again when I'm looking for something I'll find it in the side pocket. It reminds me that I'm working toward my dreams and they are coming true.
How are you reminding yourself that your dreams are coming true?
When I first read Think and Grow Rich last year, the main point was to have a tangible, set goal for what you wanted to achieve. My goal is to be a successful writer earning $100,000 a year by my 45th birthday. That will be July 16, 2016.
(Yes, I will be 41 on Monday. Happy Birthday to me :) )
I found an image of a blank check online. You can actually find these now on The Secret's website or buy some from TUT as well. But I just used Google Image Search, found a blank check photo and used Paint to edit it.
I made it out to myself, dated it July 16, 2016, and then signed it "Law of Attraction."
Here's a picture:
I carry this with me in my purse. Every now and again when I'm looking for something I'll find it in the side pocket. It reminds me that I'm working toward my dreams and they are coming true.
How are you reminding yourself that your dreams are coming true?
Saturday, July 7, 2012
How Real Desires are Determined
I love to read over old posts at Good Vibe Blog. There is so much information there.
I came across this comment on one post and it explained a lot of questions I had about how our desires are determined through Law of Attraction, even though some of our desires seem to compete with each other (like my desire to both travel AND build a house.)
On Good Vibe Blog - From: M Kenneth Petruzzi on April 11, 2011 at 6:16 am (Word Vibes)
I think that the term "You manifest what you think about" or "We get what we pay attention to" works conceptually as well as literally. In other words, since the Universe is brilliantly creative, and each of us always has competing desires going on at any given time, the Universe answers all things in a brilliantly creative way that fits within our consensus reality in a way that considers all our desires and energy diversions at any given time, and serves all.
Kenneth goes on to explain a comment that one coach uses in his teachings. The comment is that if we truly became what we constantly thought about, that he would have become a cheerleader in high school.
Kenneth says that while that person may not actually BECOME a cheerleader, that he would definitely have noticed them more than usual, maybe even dated one.
And that is how our desires are met, even what seem to be conflicting desires.
We don't necessarily want something tangible. We want how we think it will make us feel.
A boy thinking about cheerleaders wants to feel good about himself. He wants the attention of a pretty girl. He may have a belief that dating a cheerleader will make him more popular, so that is what he really wants.
I don't necessarily want to live permanently on the road in an RV. What I want is the freedom to explore that choice, the freedom to come and go. That is what I'm really looking for. Freedom to choose where to go, what to see, the excitement of a new place and new experience. But I also want the choice to stay home where things are familiar and have that experience. Ultimately, it all comes down to having the freedom to make my own decisions about how I spend my time.
(Freedom - I think I'm going to call that my 'soul' word. It is really resonating with me)
What are some conflicting desires you may have? Think about what you may really want instead, what feeling you're after.
And while you're doing that, think back to your past where you thought you wanted something in particular but got something different, but just as satisfying.
Like the song says,
You can't always get what you want, but if you try sometimes, you get what you need.
I came across this comment on one post and it explained a lot of questions I had about how our desires are determined through Law of Attraction, even though some of our desires seem to compete with each other (like my desire to both travel AND build a house.)
On Good Vibe Blog - From: M Kenneth Petruzzi on April 11, 2011 at 6:16 am (Word Vibes)
I think that the term "You manifest what you think about" or "We get what we pay attention to" works conceptually as well as literally. In other words, since the Universe is brilliantly creative, and each of us always has competing desires going on at any given time, the Universe answers all things in a brilliantly creative way that fits within our consensus reality in a way that considers all our desires and energy diversions at any given time, and serves all.
Kenneth goes on to explain a comment that one coach uses in his teachings. The comment is that if we truly became what we constantly thought about, that he would have become a cheerleader in high school.
Kenneth says that while that person may not actually BECOME a cheerleader, that he would definitely have noticed them more than usual, maybe even dated one.
And that is how our desires are met, even what seem to be conflicting desires.
We don't necessarily want something tangible. We want how we think it will make us feel.
A boy thinking about cheerleaders wants to feel good about himself. He wants the attention of a pretty girl. He may have a belief that dating a cheerleader will make him more popular, so that is what he really wants.
I don't necessarily want to live permanently on the road in an RV. What I want is the freedom to explore that choice, the freedom to come and go. That is what I'm really looking for. Freedom to choose where to go, what to see, the excitement of a new place and new experience. But I also want the choice to stay home where things are familiar and have that experience. Ultimately, it all comes down to having the freedom to make my own decisions about how I spend my time.
(Freedom - I think I'm going to call that my 'soul' word. It is really resonating with me)
What are some conflicting desires you may have? Think about what you may really want instead, what feeling you're after.
And while you're doing that, think back to your past where you thought you wanted something in particular but got something different, but just as satisfying.
Like the song says,
You can't always get what you want, but if you try sometimes, you get what you need.
Saturday, June 30, 2012
Vacation Week - Living As If
I am taking the first week of July as a vacation week. It's been a long time since I've had the ability to take an entire week off. I've done a few days here and there but that's all.
But this coming week I have the freedom (that's my 'soul' word) to do as I choose. Good thing to remember with Independence Day coming up here in the U.S.
I choose to live this week as if I'm a full-time, successful writer.
In all I say and do, I will act "as if".
How does a successful writer go grocery shopping? How does a successful writer spend time with her family? What does it look like when a successful writer walks her dog?
Yes, I will be writing as well, since successful writers do spent some part of their day writing.
What is great about this exercise is that there is no way to do it wrong. My day, my schedule, my actions may not match those of another successful writer, but that is okay. Because what's important is that I feel as if I am a successful writer. By feeling that way, no matter what I'm doing, I will bring it into my reality.
What will you be acting "as if" this week?
But this coming week I have the freedom (that's my 'soul' word) to do as I choose. Good thing to remember with Independence Day coming up here in the U.S.
I choose to live this week as if I'm a full-time, successful writer.
In all I say and do, I will act "as if".
How does a successful writer go grocery shopping? How does a successful writer spend time with her family? What does it look like when a successful writer walks her dog?
Yes, I will be writing as well, since successful writers do spent some part of their day writing.
What is great about this exercise is that there is no way to do it wrong. My day, my schedule, my actions may not match those of another successful writer, but that is okay. Because what's important is that I feel as if I am a successful writer. By feeling that way, no matter what I'm doing, I will bring it into my reality.
What will you be acting "as if" this week?
Saturday, June 23, 2012
Technology Reminds Us to be Grateful
I've posted before about FutureMe.org, where you can send emails to yourself dated in the future (which I am loving, by the way).
Now there is a way to remind yourself to keep gratitude journal.
Gratitude160.com is a free service that texts you reminders about being grateful. You can choose how many times the service can text you each day, between one to four times. When you receive the text, just reply back with what you're grateful for at that moment. At the end of the week, the site sends you a report listing everything you said you were grateful for.
My texts have been something tangible, such as a good lunch, to intangible, such as grateful for my family or a beautiful day.
The site asks for a donation of $10 per year for the bandwidth and technology they use. It's voluntary, so if you have it and you enjoy using the site, please make a donation.
Now there is a way to remind yourself to keep gratitude journal.
Gratitude160.com is a free service that texts you reminders about being grateful. You can choose how many times the service can text you each day, between one to four times. When you receive the text, just reply back with what you're grateful for at that moment. At the end of the week, the site sends you a report listing everything you said you were grateful for.
My texts have been something tangible, such as a good lunch, to intangible, such as grateful for my family or a beautiful day.
The site asks for a donation of $10 per year for the bandwidth and technology they use. It's voluntary, so if you have it and you enjoy using the site, please make a donation.
Saturday, June 16, 2012
No Accident Stories
My brother-in-law is a policeman. He's assigned to traffic duty, which means he spends the majority of his time doing various things like issuing traffic tickets but he also investigates accidents.
Each time we visit, we hear a new story about an accident. Sometimes they are funny, sometimes they are devastating. And I understand why he talks about them. To get some of what you see as a policeman out of your head, you need to talk.
But each time we've visited, we've either seen accidents while leaving town or had a few close calls -- someone merging into our lane and not seeing us or stopping suddenly.
We don't want to tell him not to tell the stories, but it is obviously reaching us in some way so that we manifest seeing or experiencing an accident of some type. This doesn't help me, since I have anxiety in large cities and in high traffic situations.
Before we go back for another visit, we have a plan set up to avoid accident stories and not let them come into our personal experience.
1. Set an intention that BIL will not discuss an accident.
Since we know that we are co-creating, BIL's intention may be stronger than ours, so --
2. If he does start a story, I will excuse myself to the kitchen or bathroom for a moment.
3. If still telling it when I return, we'll steer the subject to something else, something more positive.
4. Set intention that no matter what BIL says or believes - because with his job he's now seeing accidents everywhere, so it's now part of his belief system that they're inevitable - we will trust that we will be safe and that other drivers around us will also be safe.
Are there things that your friends or families discuss that you do not want as part of your belief system? How are you handling those situations?
Each time we visit, we hear a new story about an accident. Sometimes they are funny, sometimes they are devastating. And I understand why he talks about them. To get some of what you see as a policeman out of your head, you need to talk.
But each time we've visited, we've either seen accidents while leaving town or had a few close calls -- someone merging into our lane and not seeing us or stopping suddenly.
We don't want to tell him not to tell the stories, but it is obviously reaching us in some way so that we manifest seeing or experiencing an accident of some type. This doesn't help me, since I have anxiety in large cities and in high traffic situations.
Before we go back for another visit, we have a plan set up to avoid accident stories and not let them come into our personal experience.
1. Set an intention that BIL will not discuss an accident.
Since we know that we are co-creating, BIL's intention may be stronger than ours, so --
2. If he does start a story, I will excuse myself to the kitchen or bathroom for a moment.
3. If still telling it when I return, we'll steer the subject to something else, something more positive.
4. Set intention that no matter what BIL says or believes - because with his job he's now seeing accidents everywhere, so it's now part of his belief system that they're inevitable - we will trust that we will be safe and that other drivers around us will also be safe.
Are there things that your friends or families discuss that you do not want as part of your belief system? How are you handling those situations?
Saturday, June 9, 2012
Discover Who You Are
Here is a wonderful excercise to help you discover - and remember - who you are.
Write down five things about yourself. BUT they cannot include anything regarding your work status - your job title, if you're a student, full time parent, etc.
Here are some hints for things to include:
Hobbies
Favorite things
Something unusual about yourself
That dream deep in yourself, the one you don't usually talk about
Here are mine:
I love science fiction movies / TV shows, like Star Trek TNG, Firefly, Doctor Who.
I am the oldest of four and the only girl.
I love pizza, especially spinach Alfredo.
I have lived abroad for a time and visited England for three weeks during college.
I want to have some experience of extended travel, maybe for 3-6 months out of the year and then have a home base to return to.
What is the purpose of this exercise?
To remind us that we are unique and special. We are not our jobs or the amount of money we make, the degree we have, "just" a parent or "just" a spouse or significant other. We were created to love pizza, science fiction, new experiences and cultures.
Honor these things about yourself. Take some time every day and do something that is uniquely you. Honor your authentic self.
Write down five things about yourself. BUT they cannot include anything regarding your work status - your job title, if you're a student, full time parent, etc.
Here are some hints for things to include:
Hobbies
Favorite things
Something unusual about yourself
That dream deep in yourself, the one you don't usually talk about
Here are mine:
I love science fiction movies / TV shows, like Star Trek TNG, Firefly, Doctor Who.
I am the oldest of four and the only girl.
I love pizza, especially spinach Alfredo.
I have lived abroad for a time and visited England for three weeks during college.
I want to have some experience of extended travel, maybe for 3-6 months out of the year and then have a home base to return to.
What is the purpose of this exercise?
To remind us that we are unique and special. We are not our jobs or the amount of money we make, the degree we have, "just" a parent or "just" a spouse or significant other. We were created to love pizza, science fiction, new experiences and cultures.
Honor these things about yourself. Take some time every day and do something that is uniquely you. Honor your authentic self.
Monday, May 14, 2012
Resting, Resting
Even with everything that I have learned over the last year about LOA and about myself and all the changes that have been happening, there are still difficulties in life. There are still frustration. There is still disappointment. There are still issues to overcome. The difference, though, is that I am different. I am recognizing patterns in myself that have been formed over the past 40 years, patterns formed at home with family, at school with teachers and classmates, patterns formed with co-workers, patterns formed with my husband and my son. Some patterns can be good and helpful, like a routine. But other patterns can be harmful, and I'm having to face my own limited beliefs and my own behavior within those patterns because that is all that I can control.
There are a lot of techniques learned in the study of LOA-- meditation, vision boards, journaling, affirmations, and probably more that I just haven't learned about yet. But there has to come a time when you just have to stop and believe. Dreams are coming true. Changes are being made. Looking back over time it's easier to see them. Living through the changes, day after day, we are too close to them. We aren't seeing the forest because we're only seeing the trees right in front of us.
During the church service on Mother's Day there was a song that touched this part of me, the part of me that is still trying so hard to do this right, even as I know there is no "right" way to do anything. These are all just tools, all just ways to feel good, to feel better. But sometimes we just need to be in the moment, right now, and stop trying to "make" something happen. Sometimes we just need to believe. Our blessings are here, right now, and more are coming.
The song is Jesus, I am Resting, Resting. The verse follows:
Simply trusting thee, Lord Jesus, I behold the as thou art.
And thy love so pure, so changeless, satisfies my heart.
Satisfies its deepest longings, meets, supplies its every need.
Compasseth me round with blessings, thine is love indeed.
There are a lot of techniques learned in the study of LOA-- meditation, vision boards, journaling, affirmations, and probably more that I just haven't learned about yet. But there has to come a time when you just have to stop and believe. Dreams are coming true. Changes are being made. Looking back over time it's easier to see them. Living through the changes, day after day, we are too close to them. We aren't seeing the forest because we're only seeing the trees right in front of us.
During the church service on Mother's Day there was a song that touched this part of me, the part of me that is still trying so hard to do this right, even as I know there is no "right" way to do anything. These are all just tools, all just ways to feel good, to feel better. But sometimes we just need to be in the moment, right now, and stop trying to "make" something happen. Sometimes we just need to believe. Our blessings are here, right now, and more are coming.
The song is Jesus, I am Resting, Resting. The verse follows:
Simply trusting thee, Lord Jesus, I behold the as thou art.
And thy love so pure, so changeless, satisfies my heart.
Satisfies its deepest longings, meets, supplies its every need.
Compasseth me round with blessings, thine is love indeed.
Friday, May 11, 2012
Finding Joy
I loved this article by Jennifer Grey (Dirty Dancing) from Felicity Huffman's website, all about finding her joy.
Baby Steps Into Joy
She discusses about how she'd always had difficulty learning dance combinations, but now says:
"Now, the only the difference is: I DON’T CARE! I want the best shortcut to JOY..."
Like I mentioned in my earlier post, we want to feel good, or at least better. We want to do what makes us happy and fulfilled. That could be dancing, or exercise, or watching a movie or hanging out with a loved one. There has to be something that brings each of us, in our own way, to joy.
There are lots of things for me. Watching Glee, listening to positive music, writing, playing with the dogs, being in nature. All of these things are shortcuts to joy.
I love how she mentions loving to dance when she was younger, but giving it up because she thought she was "too old."
"And if that weren’t enough, I was more attached to my own limiting belief systems about being “too old” or some such crap than I was attached to my own happiness." (Emphasis mine. Sounds like Jennifer may know a little something about LOA)
She recognized her limiting beliefs about her age and abilities. We all have them. We're too young, too old, too fat, too thin, too broke, have no talent, will never succeed, so what's the point? Let's get to the point where we say as well, we don't care. Doing this makes me happy, and I want to be happy.
What are some of your limiting beliefs? How have you overcome them, or have you?
Baby Steps Into Joy
She discusses about how she'd always had difficulty learning dance combinations, but now says:
"Now, the only the difference is: I DON’T CARE! I want the best shortcut to JOY..."
Like I mentioned in my earlier post, we want to feel good, or at least better. We want to do what makes us happy and fulfilled. That could be dancing, or exercise, or watching a movie or hanging out with a loved one. There has to be something that brings each of us, in our own way, to joy.
There are lots of things for me. Watching Glee, listening to positive music, writing, playing with the dogs, being in nature. All of these things are shortcuts to joy.
I love how she mentions loving to dance when she was younger, but giving it up because she thought she was "too old."
"And if that weren’t enough, I was more attached to my own limiting belief systems about being “too old” or some such crap than I was attached to my own happiness." (Emphasis mine. Sounds like Jennifer may know a little something about LOA)
She recognized her limiting beliefs about her age and abilities. We all have them. We're too young, too old, too fat, too thin, too broke, have no talent, will never succeed, so what's the point? Let's get to the point where we say as well, we don't care. Doing this makes me happy, and I want to be happy.
What are some of your limiting beliefs? How have you overcome them, or have you?
Tuesday, May 8, 2012
It Only Matters That I Feel Good
I've been reading Good Vibe Blog for some time and finally it hit home.
It's the feeling I'm after, nothing else.
It's not the extended travel. It's not the custom built house. It's not being self-employed. It's not being a writer. It's not having a flexible job.
It's what I believe those things will feel like. And if I focus on feeling good now, feeling those feelings now, then I don't have to worry about the how, what, where, when and why. They will all come with time.
It has finally sunken in :)
So where does that leave affirmations, visualizing, my white board, journaling, specific things I do want?
If those things feel good to do, then I will do them. And I will appreciate what I already have and know that other things will come to me at the right time. There is nothing I need to "do" to receive these things except feel good.
What about action? I mean, don't I need to do something to receive something? If I want to earn a living as a writer, I need to write and get something out there, right? Won't that take work and time and commitment?
Well, my first short story that sold was written on inspiration within half an hour. It sold on my first submission. So when inspired to take action, I will do so. This may mean working on something new or something old. It also means, for me, setting aside time each day for projects. The only difference is that whatever I work on that day can't feel like a chore or yet more work to do.
My husband says I have too many projects going right now. I have at least four projects. But I enjoy them all. I don't want to stop working on any of them. And I don't have to. They all make me feel good. And if the attention on the projects has an ebb and flow, that's okay too. It's when I'm trying to work on the projects and get grumpy
and irritable when I need to stop working on them and take a break, and I need to be able to recognize that. Then projects become a chore, then it's time to relax and remember to have fun and feel good.
Thanks, Jeannette and all Good Vibe Blog contributors
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Have you had any kind of breakthrough in your thought or actions recently? Please share in the comments below.
It's the feeling I'm after, nothing else.
It's not the extended travel. It's not the custom built house. It's not being self-employed. It's not being a writer. It's not having a flexible job.
It's what I believe those things will feel like. And if I focus on feeling good now, feeling those feelings now, then I don't have to worry about the how, what, where, when and why. They will all come with time.
It has finally sunken in :)
So where does that leave affirmations, visualizing, my white board, journaling, specific things I do want?
If those things feel good to do, then I will do them. And I will appreciate what I already have and know that other things will come to me at the right time. There is nothing I need to "do" to receive these things except feel good.
What about action? I mean, don't I need to do something to receive something? If I want to earn a living as a writer, I need to write and get something out there, right? Won't that take work and time and commitment?
Well, my first short story that sold was written on inspiration within half an hour. It sold on my first submission. So when inspired to take action, I will do so. This may mean working on something new or something old. It also means, for me, setting aside time each day for projects. The only difference is that whatever I work on that day can't feel like a chore or yet more work to do.
My husband says I have too many projects going right now. I have at least four projects. But I enjoy them all. I don't want to stop working on any of them. And I don't have to. They all make me feel good. And if the attention on the projects has an ebb and flow, that's okay too. It's when I'm trying to work on the projects and get grumpy
and irritable when I need to stop working on them and take a break, and I need to be able to recognize that. Then projects become a chore, then it's time to relax and remember to have fun and feel good.
Thanks, Jeannette and all Good Vibe Blog contributors
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Have you had any kind of breakthrough in your thought or actions recently? Please share in the comments below.
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